- My sister invited me for a birthday celebration. We talked for a very long time about what was going on in her life. She and her husband have been retired for over 10 years. Now their 3 grandchildren and son and daughter in law are living with them. Her daughter – in -law has cancer and is having treatment along with my sisters husband. Life is not easy. It is very hectic and messy. She talked about the possibility of her outliving her husband. I held her hand as she told me her thoughts about what she would do. It is a conversation we all need to have with our selves, wondering how we will continue to live when our loved ones have gone. Her conversation is weighing heavy on my heart today.